Tim was reflecting on his marriage and how it had ended in divorce. We had talked about how the health of a stepfamily marriage is intertwined with the overall health of the entire family. In his case, he and his wife couldn’t agree on how to parent her 9-year-old son. Now let me be clear, couples in first marriages can lose their relationship to the kids, too. But parent matters can rapidly divide a stepfamily couple. So if someone you know is struggling encourage them to find parental unity.