Terry and Sharon Hargrave suggest there are three sources of “truth” about your marriage. The first and most reliable source is God. Scripture tells you the truth about relationships, how to love, and who you are. The second is wise, godly people to lean into when you need perspective. Third is yourself. But only after you mature. Young couples shouldn’t trust themselves but older couples who have walked with God and learned hard lessons can listen to that voice that’s in step with the Spirit.