I heard from a stepmom who attended my stepfamily conference and learned how to respond in a loving way to her husband's difficult ex-wife. The mom resented the stepmom and was threatened by her so she talked bad about her and poisoned her kids against her. But despite that the stepmom responded in love. With time, her goodwill won the mom over. Together, they emailed me a picture of them laughing and holding one another's children. Now that's the fairytale every kid hopes will come true.