To have healthy relationships it really takes love and trust. One without the other doesn't make for a solid relationship. Now, especially for adopted children, foster children, and stepchildren trust opens the door to love. Build trust by being emotionally and physically safe to be around; by showing them that you are committed and you'll never leave them; and by loving them on their worst day. And be trustworthy. Be a person they can trust and you'll be a person they can love.