Stepparents say, "my kids," when referring to their stepchildren so they sometimes wonder why kids struggle to use the term, "mom" or "dad" when referring to them. Well, kids are loyal to their parents and they don't want to hurt their feelings. Reserving the "mom" or "dad" label for just one person keeps it special. Stepparents, just relax about this. Labels are not the issue. Your role in the life of each child is. And that rose, by any other name, does smell just as sweet.