Eager stepparents have the best of intentions but sometimes they jump into the middle of a child's life too quickly. So here is a tip. A stepparent monitors. Monitoring means you check in with them about band practice, ask them about friends, the upcoming math test and what they want for Christmas. But you don't step into the child's personal life, feelings, and concerns until they invite you in. Take a small step before you take a bigger step. You won't just be the hall monitor forever.