One stepmom was pleasantly surprised when her two oldest stepdaughters gave her a card on Mother's Day. It read, "Everyone needs a back-up mom. You're mine!" What a huge compliment. She was beaming from ear to ear. So, why does she need a hug? Because this stepmom's other two stepchildren didn't acknowledge her at all on Mother's Day. Not a word. So which is it? Is she accepted or rejected? A part of the family or pushed aside? Ambiguity is a stepparent's middle name. That's why they need a hug.