Eventually, you’ll have to tell your child something hard to hear. Tell them what’s happening and how you feel about it. Then ask them how they feel. “Son, I’m sorry, but your best friend’s parents are getting a divorce and you might not see David as much. I know this is hard. I’m sad for them and for you. Now, how are you feeling about this?” When we lead with our emotions it helps our kids uncover their emotions. And checking in repeatedly over time helps you lead them through the valley.