When we feel insecure in a relationship we sometimes push the other person away so we don't get hurt. One dad wrote to me, "I have a fear of trusting my new wife. So I push her away and at the same time I draw my kids closer." In a blended family when one spouse draws close to their kids, to the detriment of their marriage, we have a big problem. So, what should this guy do? He should ask God for help to find out what he's afraid of and start loving in spite of the risk with his whole heart.