Michelle was jealous that her first child would be her husband’s third. “Every little thing is so special to me, but it’s old hat for him. I feel like we’re in two different places and I’m never first-I’m always going to be second.” It’s true her husband will react differently to things he’s already experienced, but that doesn’t mean Michelle is second place in his heart. Don’t let your fears tell you how important you are. Listen to the choices of your spouse. The proof is in the pudding.