Well, Amanda, move emotionally toward your kids while seriously dating someone. The natural tendency is to only move emotionally toward your dating partner. Move toward both. Your kid’s motivation to embrace the person you’re dating comes through their relationship with you. You are the gateway to that person. If your kids feel like they are losing you, why would they be motivated to accept them? Watching you date is hard enough. So move toward your kids and remind them that you’re still there.