I know a guy who insisted on a prenuptial agreement with his second wife. His first wife had an affair, divorced him, and took everything he had. He didn't want to go through that again. Pain was dictating his behavior and that's never a good approach to life. The challenge for many stepfamily couples is deciding whether fair will be defined through the lens of pain or hope. Maybe the answer is in how God loves and provides for you: does he do that sparingly or with overflowing abundance?