I think all parents can learn from Sophia. “There’s no doubt,” she said, “my brother and I were the middle-men in my parent’s communication. They’d communicate through us and I’d have to filter the message to keep somebody from getting mad.” I want to be fair. These parents probably thought that by communicating through their child they kept their tension at a minimum. But all they did was transfer their tension to their child. Look, keep your problems, your problems. Share love, not tension.