Getting negative when we just want to be held-it's human nature. We're kind of like my dog that barks at people and greets them with their teeth showing. I know all she wants is to be picked up and held, but they think she's attacking. Put your teeth away and stop barking. Calm yourself and present your need in a way that it can be received. Something like, "I've been feeling a little disconnected lately. Any chance we can spend some time together?" Go on, give it a try, and see what happens.