Healthy couples are more likely to resolve their arguments. Essentially they put into practice dozens of disciplines that help them move past the issue. James 3 in the Bible says, “A careless word out of your mouth can be a spark that sets off a forest fire.” Not criticizing your spouse, managing your tone, turning down your volume, and listening with openness to understand are disciplines that keep you from setting off a forest fire. Don’t be a fire starter. Be a fire fighter who puts them out!