I met a couple who lead a stepfamily small group in their church alongside his ex-wife and her new husband. You heard me right. The ex-spouses and new spouses teach the program together. How'd they get there? Well, the stepmom felt called by the Holy Spirit to buy her husband's ex-wife a Christmas gift. Eventually the two women became friends and everything improved on both sides. Having a big heart is essentially a choice to move past petty insecurities, not build walls, and soften your heart.