Author and stepdad Steve Arterburn says,"When you demand love and respect from stepkids, you make them feel like they are betraying their biological parent so don't demand that of them. Let love develop on its own terms." Also, if neither biological parent enjoys sports, or hunting, or music, or sharing funny YouTube videos step in to that space. Make it your own. Bring something new and different to their lives. And, finally, share fun experiences and create memories that are unique to you.