When she wants closeness and connection she tosses him a hint and hopes he’ll figure it out. And he just hears criticism. You can blame their families of origin for that. In her family, no one ever made a direct request for closeness. That felt too vulnerable and in his family indirect communication was how you let someone know they weren’t pulling their weight. Okay, I know this couple who is learning to forgive. Be patient with one another’s insecurities and speak more plainly about needs.