Okay, grandparent, let’s say, your son is divorced and you help to fill gaps; when the kids are at their mother’s do you still help out? And, if your son marries a woman with children do you sacrifice time with your biological grandkids to support your stepgrandkids? I realize it’s tough. You’ve got a lot to offer but you do have to answer these questions. So sit down with your loved-ones and have a candid conversation. Define what each of you expects of the other and how you will work together.