Let’s say you got a new neighbor and I told you to make a new friend. What would you NOT do? Well, you wouldn’t barge your way into their home uninvited and declare yourself their new BFF. No, you’d enter when you’re invited. Stepparents need to be gentle-respectful of the boundaries of kids; meet them where they are. If the door is wide open, step on in. If they keep it shut, talk through the door until they open it. You can’t force friendship, but you can grow it one step at a time.