I was interviewing a young man and I asked him the question, "What do you wish adults knew about being a stepchild?" He said, "It's a gain for the adults. They have new love and a friend to share their life with but for us kids it's a reminder that mom and dad can't be together. And it means more family change. It's just hard to adjust." He's right, which is why adults should not rush into marriage and why they need to be very patient with the children after the wedding.