This dynamic happens in all families, but blended families are particularly susceptible. Linda wisely said, “If there’s disagreement between me and my husband, we discuss it without the kids present and come to a consensus.” This couple values their unity so they’re willing to manage how they negotiate a decision. Kids are not allowed in the discussion. If the child is there, it changes everything. Finding agreement is difficult enough. Manage the process so the process doesn’t manage you.