That psychological truth is pretty sobering. Kids inherently know they are partly us so when one parent says, "Your father is late again. He's so irresponsible." The child thinks, "Well, sometimes I'm late so I must be irresponsible and I must be a disappointment to my mom." When kids are living between divorced parents their vulnerability to this dynamic goes up considerably. Proverbs says, "The words of the reckless pierce like swords." Be careful what you say or you may pierce the innocent.