None of the 30 million stepparents in the U.S. today were born into their parenting role with an automatic emotional bond with their stepchildren. That's grown over time. Since bonding provides the backbone to parenting stepparents have to intentionally build love, respect, and affection for and from their stepchildren. Again, biological parents naturally have that and the authority that comes with it. Stepparents make bonding more likely with patience and trust God to knit your hearts together.