But we don’t have a good relationship. Why would I write them a tribute? Sometimes you have to write one to find appreciation. My friend wrote a tribute to her stepmom. They didn’t have the best relationship but giving thoughtful consideration to all her stepmom had done for her opened the door first to healing and forgiveness in her own heart; and secondly the things she shared led to new conversations and ultimately to a better relationship. Maybe choosing gratitude will do the same for you.