Ladies, say your boyfriend wants to marry you but doesn’t want his elementary-aged kids to know you’re married and he wants to live in separate homes to keep the secret. What? That’s not going to work! Marriage is anything but a big secret. If there’s anything I want my kids to know about marriage it’s that the rewards of marriage are costly. So, whatever you do, even if you love someone don’t attach yourself to them if they are unwilling to pay the cost or you will never reap the rewards.